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How I Responded To An Angry Narcissist Part 1

How I Responded To An Angry Narcissist Part 1

By Bryan Wright 31 Comments July 14, 2019



the video I put up about my experience in the taxi with wall boys seem to be useful to to quite a few people so I'm hoping that this is going to be useful for similar reasons and this video is a sort of follow on from that it's an experience I had very recently so so the way I dealt with it was quite different I hope that that it will just make you think a bit about about whether you stand up to a narcissist or not and and to sort of I hope it will help you to view it as your choice that you're not forced to do anything and you've got a choice in it it is really long because I want to put in every detail because because I think there's just lots of different points at which maybe maybe it might make you think if it is too long then I guess I'll I'll see and then I'll know for next time that that it was too long I had stayed at a hotel on the Gili Islands and the guy who was running it is the person that I'm going to be talking about I think he was a part-owner as well he was English and had lived in Indonesia for eight years so basically nothing in the hotel worked the internet was a disaster I couldn't even open the door to my room properly it just sort of moved about a foot and then you had to jam it open the lock didn't work when I tried to lock it there was an even toilet paper in the bathroom you know it was just a disastrous place and I ended up injuring myself quite badly because nothing worked there and and everything was broken and I'd really hurt my back falling onto concrete and so I had I had ended up telling two members of staff what happened and when after it happened I went to get a massage there and if the masseuse was really bad you know there's been that there haven't been many occasions when I've had a really bad massage in Asia but this was really didn't help at all and I told a couple of members of staff there if I don't improve in the next couple of days then I'm going to ask them to pay for a physio appointment for physiotherapy you know and so they were aware of this already and when I was leaving the guy at reception had told me that this manager that the English guy his name's Mike I won't mention his surname but he said you know that Mike had said that that this had now been removed from the hotel what had injured me and so so everyone was fully aware of what had happened I'd already paid to stay there but you know unfortunately before I even arrived there I had already paid for a week there so that's why I ended up staying I nearly left a day early but I was in so much pain with my back that I spent that last day just lying flat and I I had to pay for the food I'd had bare which was also not good at all I needed to pay as I left just for the food and my car didn't work in their machine and the operations manager had said to me that I could pay the the guy that was taking me to the boat I could go to the ATM near the port and so that was what I plan to do but I'd also given him my email address just in case I had a problem at that ATM and told him to email me if there if there was a problem I didn't know if my bank had blocked my card because I was in a different country I got off the horse and cart went to the ATM and get money out I tried five different times different amounts and it didn't work so I told the guy with the horse-and-cart to let them know that what had happened and to ask him to email me as we'd arranged so four days later and they hadn't emailed so I thought when I didn't hear from them that they were embarrassed and that they knew I'd be in touch about physiotherapy appointments and so I thought well you know that they're probably thinking well we're not going to charge her for the food then if I'd had physiotherapy appointments that would have come to a lot more than what I owed them for the food I was getting massages at that time every day trying to try to make my back better so now I was pleased to be on a different Island staying in a different hotel and then it was about four or four days later I had a message a call on whatsapp and it was about 10:30 at night so it was a really strange time for them to have been calling and I didn't know who it was I picked it up and it was the receptionist from the other hotel that I'd left but before we could say much he'd passed me on to the manager so I was passed on to the English guy without I didn't know that was going to happen and suddenly he's shouting down the phone at me and I had no idea why but I said to him I'm not gonna speak to you if you're gonna shout at me and he continued so I put the phone down on him and and then he rang back various times and early in the morning as well and I just moved my phone so that I wouldn't hear it buzzing and I just left it because it was just so inappropriate to be calling me over and over again on my personal number on whatsapp if there'd been any issues they have my email address and that's how they'd agreed to contact me and then a bit later I looked at the messages and I saw that he was asking what I was going to do about the money I owed him so at that point I emailed booking.com because I didn't have his address his email address and I asked them to help me with this situation I told them what had happened I said we'd had this agreement that they were going to cover the costs of physiotherapy and now suddenly out of the blue he wants this money and and I'm now concerned because he's behaving so professionally I'm now concerned that I'm never going to get the money for physio appointments and by that point it was clear that I needed I needed at least more massages I needed something because nothing was working and I was just in a lot of pain all the time and so so anyway booking.com basically said we can't do anything you have to communicate with him so at that point my doorbell went off and and this was about half past eight in the morning and so I opened that the door and the receptionist was there and she said there's this English guy standing outside the front of the hotel I had never told the hotel where I was staying so they had no idea where you know even which Island I was going to I hadn't given them any information I later found out that the way he'd he'd discovered where I was was was through the chief of the islands he'd spoken to him so that's sort of a bit like like the mayor you know but but obviously the islands are very small there so it's a much smaller area and and I don't know why that person would have allowed them to find me I don't even know how he knows who's staying where but I don't know why he would have allowed some some random hotel manager to come and find me in my hotel and it's and I think it's very concerning for the security in those islands I mean obviously he would have told him a bunch of Lies and and he believed them but but the fact that he didn't even contact me himself to check my side of the story first it's really concerning so I told her that this you know I realized who it was that it must be this guy and I told her that I wasn't going to go and see him and that it was really inappropriate that he had come to my hotel and that what I was going to do was email because I explained I didn't have his email address so I said I'd email her and could she show him the email in the email I explained that they had agreed to email me if I wasn't able to give them the money at the ATM and that I hadn't heard anything from them and that they'd also agreed that they would pay for physiotherapy appointments because he was behaving so unprofessionally I I decided to to tell him that I would give him any money that was left after the appointments that I was having because I didn't trust him I didn't trust that he was professional enough to to do what had been promised to me and to give him me that money Ballack if he had never come to my hotel if they'd sent me an email saying this is the outstanding bill and I would have replied and said my back isn't feeling any better I just want to confirm that you're going to be paying for these physiotherapy or massage appointments and I had they said yes then I would have paid them the bill there and then that was owed to them but but I you know alarm bells were ringing for me because it was it was so so inappropriate so unprofessional so the the receptionist showed him the email and and he then still stayed outside the hotel I wasn't to any point going to go out and speak to this guy because the fact that he had crossed enough boundaries already by calling me at crazy times shouting me on the phone and then turning up to my hotel told me that I didn't owe this guy any kind of conversation and certainly not outside the hotel where I was staying so I stayed in in the garden of where I was staying but but then he sent this girl back with a message that he was going to wait all day for me and he wrote a whatsapp message saying something about the you know that he was going to call the police if he if I didn't give him his money and so so I sent another email I wasn't going to correspond even on whatsapp because it's too immediate I blocked him in the end but I sent an email via this receptionist saying but if he didn't leave the hotel premises I would be calling the police and then half an hour later a policeman showed up and at first I thought that the receptionist had called him for my benefit because the manager of this hotel wasn't there he was away and the receptionist was this really young girl she looked about 22 or something and and very small you know and the the and Mike this this guy who'd come to stalk me was really tall and quite a big guy the receptionist rang the bell I asked who it was which I was always doing before I opened it to check it was only her and she said it was she said it was her so I opened the door and there was a policeman with her so I let him in and I said oh thank goodness you're here and I asked her how heavy did you call him and she said no but Mike had called him so you know I just thought okay well fine I've done absolutely nothing wrong so this is an opportunity for me to hopefully get rid of this guy so I told the policeman what had happened and how and you know and the fact that this guy was still standing around outside now unfortunately he didn't actually speak English so the receptionist had to slate everything and it was it was really difficult because not only this but also there's a lot of corruption in Indonesia as I was later to find out and I think that this policeman was was going to be paid to do what the what Mike was telling him so he wasn't it turned out that everything I said he just didn't listen to I asked the receptionist to call her manager and I spoke to him and I asked him I told him everything that had happened and I asked him to speak to the policeman for me and it was it was really difficult for me because the because Mike was standing at the front of the hotel the policeman was on his side threatening to arrest me I didn't really know what was going to happen I didn't know if he would go through with that the manager I spoke to you on the phone spoke to the policeman and I had told the manager look I'll give him what would have been what would have been close to half of it it was a round number in in the Indonesian currency and it would have been it would have been close to half of it just to end the problem because and the reason I was prepared to do that was because certainly in terms of British law it would have been right to pay the bill and then it would have been right to claim money from them that's how it would work in that order you wouldn't really not pay the bill and wait until they've paid you know to reimburse you for your injury doesn't really work like that so because of that I was prepared to pay that amount in Southeast Asia the rules can be quite different there's a system in place in those countries as well but people often ignore it and there's a lot of corruption so so you know you don't necessarily abide by the rules so I was used to in Thailand and bori uh that you could that you could sort of come to a deal with people and and like i said if there hadn't been any issues if he had just behaved like a normal manager and they'd sent me an email i would have paid the full amount and I would have asked them to compensate me on at a different time when I'd had the appointments and could show them all of the receipts you know but trust had gone out of the window in this situation and and so the policeman had gone to ask ask Mike if that was okay and he and Mike had said no and and he insisted that I paid the guy or that he would arrest me and take me to immigration and and if he had I think I would I still wouldn't have given anyone any money I would have gone to the police station and I would have seen what was going to happen there now there was no way I was going to pay this guy because because of the way he'd behaved I would have felt like I was I was saying that it's acceptable to behave like that and so it you know I was definitely gonna stand my ground and there was a part of me inside myself that was saying what are you doing this guy's a policeman obviously you know he might well be a corrupted one nothing he's saying makes sense because in in a country where where people had to stick to the law there's no way you could be told to leave the country because of a situation like this so you know I knew that I wasn't really that this policeman wasn't wasn't someone who was was standing by the law I knew what he was saying didn't make sense and I decided to try to call his bluff so I just stuck my grand stuck to my ground I remained really calm and and smiled and just said I'm not going to pay him and you know this went on for for really for about half an hour I was nervous but there was just something in me but was just I just wasn't having it you know and maybe maybe it would have reached that you know if I if someone really was gonna push me out of the country maybe I would have I don't actually know what I would have done but I was just adamant that I wasn't going to Bulge you know and so so and and I and I but I felt I did feel intimidated by this policeman but I didn't show it and then the receptionist came back and said he'd gone now and I spoke to her manager again on the phone and I said thank you he told me that that Mike had now gone and so I thought great it's all over now but then a bit later I came out of my room and saw that he was there again he was back in reception staring at me you could see straight ahead where the reception was – to where my room was so I'd then gone back into the room and at this point I started to feel really stressed because it was like it felt like it was just not gonna end and and because there was no one there was no one there to sort of physically stop him from from coming to my room so you know I locked the door obviously and a bit later the bell rang again and I asked who it was and the receptionist said it was her so I opened the door but it wasn't just her it was Mike as well and he pushed the door slamming it against the wall and stormed in to my garden so when he walked into the garden it might as well have been to my room you know because there was no escape and it was a very small garden you can see it actually it's all a lot of the videos and he he pushed the door open slammed it against a wall so that it banged and bounced forward and he walked past me and he had a sort of swagger about him you know he was really enjoying this and he was talking loudly on the phone about me to somebody so I I obviously felt really anxious you know my heart was really racing he was much taller than me as well and he was now standing in the middle of the garden right Nick it was it wasn't a big garden it was very small and it was right next to my room the bedroom door was open to the garden you know so everything was open and and the the bedroom was just surrounded by glass so there was no way to get away from him apart from to just go to just leave that to leave the room to leave the garden and just to go to reception so that's what I did so I first of all I left and then I remembered that my handbag was there and I really didn't know what level he would stoop to so I came back and grabbed my handbag he was distracted on the phone still basically bitching about me on the phone to someone really loudly so then I took my bag and then I I raced down to reception and and I I didn't know what to do I didn't know I didn't know what what was going to happen and I felt scared because there was no one around and looking back I really wished that at that point I had left the premises you know and just gone to somewhere where they were more tourists but I didn't I I didn't know how he was going to be you know I didn't know if he was or had already started following me towards reception so I locked myself in and took the key out and so I was sitting in reception and that that reception was surrounded by glass so I could see him when he came towards me and and from there on it just became a lot more stressful he was not really shouting or well he was sort of borderline shouting he was raising his voice at me and he would sometimes come right up to the glass and the glass there was a gap where there was no glass you know so and it was about you know the gap was about this big so there was plenty of room and it wasn't that far from where I was sitting and he sort of you know through that he sort of went like this through that gap and he said you know he just was was just saying I don't even remember I sure I think I've cut a lot of it out but he was asking what at what was I gonna do and he was speaking to me in a really aggressive condescending way and so I didn't say anything I just I didn't look at him I just sat there sometimes I looked at my phone and I just sat there and waited for him to leave and I felt very anxious my heart was racing you know and there was this this girl she was so tiny you know and that was it it was just me and this girl and she was talking to him and again you know in that in that particular region men do have authority and so she was quite she wasn't telling him to leave or anything like that it was actually her thing that told me to take the key out of the door in case he just because he could just put his hand through under the glass and take it shortly lots of men arrived and stood outside he'd called lots of local people and they were all speaking Indonesian and they all and they all looked like they agreed with him he was talking away to them in an inner kind like trying to be as obvious as he could to me that he was again bitching about me and you know one of them was saying is she crazy you know speaking some English so again intending me to hear it and where we were was a way you know it was away from the touristy areas it was sort of like it was really it was just a sort of earth path and in front of us there was they were there was sort of the back of some bungalows but there was really nothing anywhere near and so all I could do was just sit in that locked room and waved and say that's what I did he told me that the police would be back soon he was shouting at me he was telling me I was crazy he was repeating my name all the time along with all of these different insults I can't even remember what they were now and and I think part of the reason was because I just zoned out I disassociated intentionally you know and I'll talk about that a bit later the only thing I ever said to him in response was that I wasn't going to speak to him there's something called Jade which stands for justify argue defend and explain and I suggest that you don't do any of these things with a narcissist because once you do you're on the backfoot and he has elevated power because you're you're losing energy on the situation by doing any of those things and you're not going to get it back from the narcissist they're going to get off on the energy that you're using up you're letting the narcissist see that you're going to lose energy stress yourself out and so on because of something he is saying that's not rational so in that sense you know he will feel like his winning and and he'll really enjoy that and you won't get anything from doing any of those things because the whole point is the the narcissist isn't being rational and and I do again when I say he I'm saying it in the old-fashioned way so he or she narcissists create arguments that aren't based on anything rational and so if you treat it like a rational if you treat what the narcissist says is rational that's when you drive yourself crazy I found it really intimidating that all of these men were outside I think there must have been about I think six of them outside talking about me looking at me aggressively through the glass and so so that made me feel really uneasy you know and and intimidated and I I knew that he was telling them a story that wasn't based on what had really happened every now and again I heard something he said that completely just that showed he was he was intentionally missing missing out facts you know he was saying that I hadn't had an accident hadn't fallen and so on so that there was definitely nothing despite this situation I knew that I wasn't going to give him any money now it was at a point where I would go through with what I'd originally offered partly because I felt like it made me look reasonable in that situation not not not to him but just to anyone else who was involved with the situation I knew that by offering that and by explaining the situation i I didn't look unreasonable especially because there things do work differently everything is more casual it's more about just reaching a deal so I knew that anybody who did know the true facts wouldn't find my story unreasonable and I knew that he was lying and then being dishonest I was aware that there was a group of people who were being fed lies about me and that was the only information they had about me and that they may well be believing what they were hearing I mean the way that some of them were acting it looked like they definitely believed it I mean one of them I remember was saying why is she crazy you know and so I had to accept that that Jade that that's that also can that also can be relevant to people who the narcissist has spoken to flying monkeys who are prepared to do their work for them there's no point again in justifying yourself to those people and even people who are not not intentionally being flying monkeys just people who believe what the narcissist has told them they're going to get suspicious if you seem really defense if you're going to look like you've done something and you're guilty so so there's really no point in in trying too hard to convince anyone of anything in a situation like that sometimes you just have to cut your losses and think okay they think I'm crazy I'm just just let them think that you know what's true you know so in that situation I knew that I knew what the reality of the situation was and and I knew also that he was ticking all of the boxes of being a narcissist so I was just kind of watching oh okay there's triangulation tick you know and um and I didn't do anything until somebody came to me and asked me what happened and then you know and Mike wasn't there at the time and so then I told him what happened and I didn't try too hard to convince him I just told him what had happened in a calm way and left it up to him to make his mind up about who he was going to believe but but also this guy was had made himself look like like like a completely irrational person anyway because another thing he'd done was he'd come up to the window to taunt me and there was a gap onto the window that you could easily fit your arm through and that's what he'd done so he'd reached through and taken my mobile phone from the desk in the reception's office as soon as he as soon as he did it I knew it was too late I couldn't take it back from him you know I didn't bother I didn't bother to you know I guess in theory I could have grabbed his hand cuz I saw it happen I could have grabbed his hand tried to get it off him but I could see that by doing that the chances are he would win because he's he's a man he's a he was a tall generally quite a large sized man and he would have he would have managed to he would have been stronger than me and probably he would have managed to get it before I could get it off him and so by doing that I would have shown him that I was willing to spend – to pour my energy into something you know and he would have felt that power and it just would have excited him more so I didn't do that I just I let it happen and I wondered am I gonna see that phone again and I just accepted that there was nothing I could do that anything I tried to do would just make the situation worse and and it was you know I regretted it I thought oh why did I leave the phone there why didn't I put it further away on the desk where he couldn't get it you know I immediately had that feeling and and I'd and I just and it was it was really a horrible feeling that he had my phone obviously you know our phones a private I guess he couldn't have got into the phone but but it was just it was just it was just horrible but at the same time I thought wow he's just behaving in a more and more extreme way and this is just such inappropriate crazy behavior you know and so so I just I just watched that he just ticked another box and that he was just getting more and more desperate for a reaction he was just trying everything to get a reaction from me and I wasn't going to give it to him I repeatedly asked the receptionist to call the man and and she said oh it's his day off today he can't speak to you and and she didn't grasp how frightening the situation was and I think part of the reason why she didn't understand was because I was behaving very calmly but inside I didn't feel calm you know I just I I was just behaving really calmly because I knew that I needed to in that situation I knew that if I didn't behave calmly everything would get worse and the guy would start to feed off my reactions and get more and more extreme you know and so so I think she just didn't get it at all and she she was completely unsupportive when he took the phone he he noticed I hadn't reacted and that confused him and so he asked the receptionist is this your phone and she said no and he said whose is it and the receptionist rather in in another silly way he said it was me you know she shouldn't have said that she was she was actually quite useless really doing this job of protecting her customer she she was you know she obviously felt very threatened by this guy and she was very young she was also very petite she was in you know she was living in a culture where women are where men are superior to women and where women have less power you know so she was sort of adhering to those rules so she immediately you know told him what he wanted to know that it was my phone and I felt that no one was protecting me from him or from any of these men that was a frightening experience to be locked in that room I wondered what's going to happen if I need to go to the toilets how I you know and so I just hopes that it was going to be over soon and even though I had the door locked to protect me everything was glass so it still felt kind of fragile and I could just see this group of men looking annoyed and turning around and looking at me and there was nothing there was though you know we were down an alleyway there was there were there were no they were there were no tourists around that there was just nothing I could do but there you know even if I tried to call the police I just would have thought that same guy would have come back and threatened to arrest me so you know there was just no one this is quite a long story so I'm going to be cutting it up and spreading it across different videos so I'm not going to end and begin as I normally would they're just going to be little pieces sort of cut out and and put across different videos so it's not one massive overwhelming long video if you haven't subscribed please subscribe and I'll see you in the next video

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Hello! 🙂 I want to be super clear that, (in order of importance) :
1) I wasn't in physical danger as I was in a locked room and although the men looked disapproving, they did not look angry and weren't about to smash the glass! Mike gave no impression he would have dared do that. Mentioning the glass being fragile was misleading and I really just meant it was intimidating psychologically to see them all 😕 If I had been in any physical danger I would not have hesitated to have given him the amount of money he asked for. Please please always put your safety first! I've noticed a couple of comments suggesting I risked my life. So if this becomes a common perception, I might take this video down-that is the last message I want people to take from this!
2) Regardless of the corruption, I didn't have any issues with the Indonesian people living on the island, they are gentle and simply hate aggression which is why they cowered around Mike (who was a Brit). In general, Indonesian people are very friendly and always have a big, (usually genuine), smile on their faces when they see you.
3) People at the terrible hotel had already agreed to compensate me before I left, and Mike had been made aware of the accident!
4) What I say about British law is a bit misleading-it's only true assuming someone hasn't already agreed to compensate you which they had promised to do. In that culture there would have been no point in getting a solicitor because of the level of corruption so I would never have been compensated. Even the police later demanded payment to help me.

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Sandra Johnstone

Well, what an ordeal. At least we know you survived!

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Liz Graham

Your a fabulous story telller I was on edge of seat! 🤣. Just aweful all that corruption.and the eeery feeling that he knew where tou were! Had you been a man I doubt he would have behaved this way! What a Bully! I loved the way you treated this siruation I feel I would have offered a compromise too! That receptionist sounded a nightmare too! When tou asked who was at the door she should have told you he was with her at the door! Wowza The wholè situation was inappropriate! Hope your back recovered from your injury! 😊

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Shelly Clark

Hi, just waiting patiently for your next video.😁😀😄

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kate matsson

Hi! I really hope You read this because I have a question that's bothering me. Before I ask, I want to say that I agree with not responding and not giving the person that is being rude/abusive my energy/satisfaction etc., but I wonder sometimes if my non-reaction is just going to kind of make the person explode if that makes sense. That if I don't respond/feed into it, the person is just gonna flip out in the end out of frustration with my non-responding and possibly be aggressive (I don't have anyone particular in mind, just musing). Like, "Oh, this doesn't do anything to you, so I'm gonna smack you, maybe that will finally get a reaction out of you" You know what I mean? How can one tell? Thanks for all Your videos! Good stuff. 🙂

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lyelma3

That's so awful , glad you managed to stay calm and escape something that could have escalated badly , narcs are such cowards and bullies , mike wouldn't have dared to do this if you were male and bigger than him in stature , asshole x

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Mrs ONeal

I would’ve just given him the money. That’s scary.

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Talitha Button

Having just heard the voice messages of Nicole Kissinger to Chris Watts I would love to hear your take. Her voice sounds totally different from her interviews and she makes the craziest, fakest giggles that would scream psycho to most people! Why is she so different here and why does Watts not see she sounds mad as a box of frogs.

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Kelley Arzola

Hi ladybug! It’s my birthday today and I’m spending it on your channel! You make my heart happy listening to you. Keep up being amazing like you are.

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Lady Sansa Stark

He actually went not to a different city but a different island to find you? Over a food bill? Wow I know a lot of people have narcissistic traits but that man took it to a much higher level he couldn't handle that you didn't give into what he wanted. I know you said u were safe but this is the kinda person who would hide & catch you off guard..that poor receptionist probably had the worst day of her life..

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SECRET SPY

Why didnt your card work ?

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Go Jo

Very intimidating. Glad you're okay. Seriously wrong a girl has to lock herself away from anyone. Think if you'd pushed any legal side by mentioning him speaking to a UK lawyer to sort the issue out with you he may have crawled away. Am quite concerned about an incident that happened today and hearing your experience, so far, am rather more concerned.

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Love Your Spirit Free From Narcissistic Abuse

Thank God, nothing really happened to you. You are a very brave young lady.

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Pauline's Blog

That was such a horrible experience.

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Katherine Kelly

What a creepy man! You deserve a medal for handling the situation and holding your ground.💪💪💪

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Pearls of Wisdom

Love your channel !!

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niki magelakis

Mike =‘s, pathetic jerk 🙁
Good to see you survived unscathed. Physically that is.
So easy for such situations to escalate into more damaging outcomes. Waiting to hear the rest…

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Briarrose29

I truly admire your spirit, intelligence, and self confidence.

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Johnna

8:51, your face is priceless. We have all made that face and we all know what it means. Poor girl!

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Martha Iveth Martinez

Thank you. Could you review the Michelle Carter case regarding Conrad Roy III?

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Jena Lamp

Ugh still waiting on Part 2! You need to post everyday my lady! 😁😁🤗🤗

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Debbie Weightman

Frightening! Men like that are cowards. He knew you were alone. I hope you sued him.

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Paula Shelton

Great story and great sofa! Love the owls!

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Vena Collier

You should sue the hotel for harassment and mental anguish! The receptionist had no business letting Mike know where you were staying and letting him barge into your room! Also you should warn tourists away from Indonesia saying its not safe for women to travel there.

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Helen Naumann

Cannot wait to hear the outcome. Good for you not being intimidated. I would name and shame the hotel. But that is me. 😍

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Kim Torkington

What an a-hole Mike

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Will Ollis

Thank you for telling that intimate but scary story:/ blimey I am glad you are ok X what a mad place to be caught in😧 I understand what you are saying and well done for keeping cool !! Jeeeez 🙀 X I can see it upset you a lot and I am so glad you got out of a terrible situation!! X

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lynne Gillette

JADE
Justify
Argue
D?
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Does anyone remember the last two?

Thank you for sharing. I never make any verbal agreement without having something written out and signed and dated by both parties. My dad was very big on teaching us that.

I am so sorry that happened to you. Personally, I wouldn't have waited for them to email me. I personally would have sent what I owed then as soon as funds were available regardless if they were going to compensate me for an accident.

Looking forward to hearing how your ordeal ended. I wish I would have had your advice years ago concerning narcissist. 😊

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cocosurfbaby

What a monster and an absolutely useless receptionist but this is the case in these patriarchal dystopias! I encountered such things in Dubai a lot! Isn’t it horrific that once your work out NARCYs you seem them all over the world like some horrid computer game we are trapped in! I hope to one day be as grey rock as this! ♥️

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hjg hjg

I really love your videos. Congratulations for having such skills.
And i was wondering:
what exactly makes him a narcissist in your eyes? When did his narcissism started in this situation, in your eyes? Is he a narc or does his behaviors make him a narcissist in that situation? I am asking because i guess i cannot really identify a narcissist. At least i couldn't tell based on a situation like this. All i see is him being repeatedly abusive in his behavior, crossing boundaries over and over, being unsensitive and unprofessional, being a macho, making use of his "power" as a "manager" in a pathetic way, his aggression in several situations and more…
I think you were very brave, obviously have a lot of nerves and can handle anxious causing situations so well. I have to say that how you reacted sounds a little risky to me. However, never stop being brave.

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Fog Darts

Proud of you for standing up to that petulant child.
He messed with the wrong woman!

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